In those years "Before Julie," Ken was a traveling son-of-a-gun. I lived to travel, and I was happy. I put thousands of miles on my government-vehicle Suburban, and it was good. Trips to Brookings, Coos Bay, Newport, Garibaldi near Tillamook, Astoria, Westport, Seattle... it read like an I-5 and/or HWY101 tourist brochure. Mostly one or two overnight-ers, then back home, but the odd longer trip offshore aboard a cutter or to teach or sit in a class. I had the wanderlust, big time, and a job position that encouraged and enabled that running around.
I knew the roads, where the construction was, where the delays would be. I knew the best hotels at the govt. rate (usually on the beach with an awesome view), where to get the best pizza, the best chowder, where to buy fresh salmon or albacore tuna off the boats, the movie theaters with the best screens, when and where to pee before headed south of Bandon... I was the guy on the coast.
It was an indication of my expertise that I was the only person at the Marine Safety Office that was approached to take the newly-arrived Commanding Officer, XO, or Chief, Inspection Dept out to the coast for AreaFam trips. These were good trips, because the new-guy had to see it all in as short a timespan as I could arrange. But one destination was a constant... we had to go to Crater Lake to see the National Park Service's charter concession. Yep, drivin' to Crater Lake during the summer, hiking down to the water to tour the boats and take the trip out to Wizard Island. Then over to Gold Beach to meet n' greet the guys who run the Mailboats on the Rogue River, and so on. This trip usually ended up being that officer's only trip out to southern Oregon, so I figured that it was my duty to be inclusive and complete.
The gentle reader will please forgive me if they know where I am headed in this rambling discourse. It is, I fear, one of the common themes of my life.
Travel takes me to new places, and this change of scenery satisfies some ancient, genetic need. Travel takes me to new places, and in the process, distances me from the ones I love. Life was certainly easier when I traveled without a second thought, but would I really want it that way now?
Life requires balance, balance requires energy and thought and compromise. I have to think that this is a more examined existence than simply following blind wanderlust...
So I guess I should be happy for my difficult choices, although I still drive Julie crazy. Maybe it is my duty to show her the world and ignite in her the same travelin' jones that still drives me...
Of course, I am writing this in the Anchorage airport, having started it in Petersburg and added to it again in Sitka, all within a three week span.
The following is a comment Julie added during the composition of this blog:
And now that you have a wife, your life is boring and all you get is grief when you leave town.To which I have to tell you, my dearest Julie, best friend and partner, my life is about as far from "boring" as I can go, and I would not choose to do this adventure with you any differently. And your "grief" at my leaving is music to my ears. Think about the fortune cookie epistle pinned to the office blackboard... you know what I mean. Lastly BTW, I am so honored and blessed to have you walk this path with me. Thank you, BooBoo.
KML